Showing posts with label personal development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal development. Show all posts

Sunday, 31 July 2016

Give what you want to receive the most. This is one of the most valuable lessons that I can give you. If you want more support, show more support to others. If you want more respect, show more respect to others. If you want more love, just show more love. Then everything will come back to you like a river. THE PROCESS OF GIVING TRIGGERS THE PROCESS OF RECEIVING!


Saturday, 30 July 2016

How To Become A Better Morning Person

Who does not know the river: "He stood up with his left foot."? The way you wake up / but will be largely marked the course of the entire day. And therefore, that every day will be the most successful, it is crucial to learn how to stand up "to the right leg" :)

Wednesday, 27 July 2016

WE DON'T SEE THE WORLD AS IT IS, BUT JUST THE WAY WE ARE.

If you are full of fear and doubts you are projecting your internal state to the external circumstances.
To really understand what I'm talking about, try to imagine glasses with colorful glass. Everyone of us has such colored glasses and through these glasses we perceive everything. This is nothing other than a filter through which we strain all our knowledge and experiences. These glasses are made of all beliefs, rules and ways of being and living, which was thought to us by our parents, teachers, friends, and from all other influences, which formed us from birth onwards. They sre fused from all the conversations you've ever had with all the people you've ever met and from all previous experiences. Out of all this came a story (which we sold to ourselves) about how the world works.
Remember that we don't see the world as it is, but just the way we are. So, if your glasses with colorful glass are a mess, will also your life be a mess. If in your glasses there's a belief that says: "You can not become rich in a fair way", then your actions will naturally coincide with that belief and you'll never be rich through honest work.

Remember that YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY.


Tuesday, 26 July 2016

Difficult times give you the chance to grow.

The highest mountains form the best climbers. And troubled times create the best leaders.

The most uncomfortable situations are those tests, where the best businessmen come out. Keep in mind that heavy tests never last long, but strong people always do. Difficult conditions are nothing more than a chance to become a hero. Times of trials, both in business and in life are excellent opportunities to transform disaster into success.


Monday, 25 July 2016

3 ways to be happier right now

One of the ways that will help you achieve success in life is your attitude. Be a happy, positive and smiling person. Give people arround you a smile, a positive word or show them that you care for them. Love yourself and all other people. Be extremely compassionate. Become outstanding-friendly. Make any person who crosses your path better, happier and more committed than it was before. Then just watch what others will do for your career.

Sunday, 24 July 2016

How To Overcome Laziness In 4 Steps

In life you can get only as much as you are on the other side ready  to give!
Zero work means zero results. Zero time invested means zero results. Zero risk invested means zero results. Zero faith, confidence, perseverance and patience means zero results.


View a short video that will show you how you can start the day with small steps to overcome laziness and will thus transform you into a highly productive person.

Friday, 22 July 2016

Think and Grow Rich

Think and Grow Rich is the "bible" of personal development. This masterpiece has become one of the biggest bestseller ever since it has been sold in more than 70 million copies worldwide! In this book you will find doctrines, principles and wisdom, which will show you, that your MIND and WAY OF THINKING are the most important factors of your (un)SUCCESS.


This is »A MUST READ« if you want success and financial freedom in your life!


Thursday, 21 July 2016

One of the life rules...

You are the avarage of 5 persons you hung out with the most. So choose carefully your friends. If you would like to be financially successful the recipe is very simple – find 5 persons who are already financially successful and spend as much time as possible with them.


Wednesday, 20 July 2016

How to change your results?

Your words affect your own mood. Undoubtedly! Words, which are uttered, create your state. If you call a situation "a CATASTROPHY" this triggers a specific emotional response in you, which is quite different than if you would describe the situation as "INTERESTING" or as "a BASE FOR IMPROVEMENT." The language you use, has an impact on how you will react to a failure - whether it is in an optimistic or in an indifferently way.

You should know, that your words are nothing else than your thoughts, which you've expressed. With words you proclaim your beliefs. Your beliefs direct your behavior, your behavior creates all your results! So change your thoughts and your results will change!


Monday, 18 July 2016

20 negotiation tips for getting the salary you want

Negotiating your salary can be awkward and challenging — and actually getting the pay you want often seems impossible. But it isn't.
"A job interview can be stressful, especially when it comes time to talk about money," says etiquette expert and "Poised for Success" author Jacqueline Whitmore. "However, you can get what you want and deserve — most job seekers just aren't sure when and how to ask for it."
To master the delicate dance that is a salary negotiation, you need to be able to push without offending the hiring manager or undercutting yourself. 
Here's how the pros do it:

Research the market.
To successfully negotiate your salary, negotiation expert Kim Keating writes in "Lean In For Graduates," you'll need to gather information to figure out what you're really worth. "The time you invest can pay off in a big way. And I mean that literally," she writes.
To protect yourself against accepting too little or asking for far too much, you can turn to sites like Glassdoor and Salary.com to determine the average compensation range for someone with your level of experience and skills and in your industry or company (or a comparable one, in terms of number of employees, revenue size, and location).
"At the end of the day, a candidate has a number in mind as to what they think they're worth," says Eddie R. Koller III, managing director and partner at Howard-Sloan-Koller Group, a technology and media recruiting firm. "But a company has limits to what they can spend." 

 

Set your goals in advance.

Once you know what you're worth, decide how much you would like to make and what's the lowest offer you'd be willing to accept.
Ivanka Trump, CEO of Ivanka Trump Collection, says knowing what you want to achieve before heading into a negotiation is "the golden rule" for negotiating — but most people ignore it.
"Without a plan, you allow the opposing party to define your goals instead of the other way around," she writes on Motto.

 

Don't talk money until the interview process is over.

If you can delay discussing pay until there's an offer on the table, you should.
"Once they've decided that they have to have you, only then are you in the position to negotiate," says Dan Martineau, president of Martineau Recruiting Technology, a firm specializing in IT executive positions.
If your interviewer tries to talk about salary early on, Martineau tells Business Insider that the best thing to do is to tell the interviewer you would like to defer a conversation about compensation until after the company has had a chance to evaluate whether you're the right fit for them.

 

Open with something personal.

As previously reported on Business Insider, in an experiment where Kellogg and Stanford students negotiated by email, those who shared unrelated personal details over the course of the negotiation — hobbies, hometowns, etc. — ended up getting significantly better results than those who kept things to name, email, and the dry monetary details.
Opening up a bit sends a signal that you're trustworthy, according to Grant, and it makes it more likely that they'll reciprocate. 

 

Don't ever disclose your current salary.

Revealing your salary history has the potential to negatively affect your income for your entire career.
"I would never, ever disclose my current salary or salary history to a prospective employer, even if it means ending the interview process," writes recruiter and "Ask the Headhunter" author, Nick Corcodilos. "That is my advice to job hunters."
If an interviewer asks what your current salary is, Corcodilos suggests politely but firmly declining to disclose your salary history by saying something along the lines of, "I'd be glad to help you assess what I'd be worth to your business by showing you what I can do for you, but my salary is personal and confidential, just as the salaries of your own employees are."
Liz Ryan, founder and CEO of consulting firm The Human Workplace, recommends in a post on LinkedIn answering the question indirectly by giving your target salary range instead.
"How are you ever going to increase your earnings if every time you change jobs, you get a tiny raise over what they paid you at the last place?" she asks.

 

Be prepared to prove your value ...

Don't be afraid to toot your own horn a little. 
"Be prepared to prove your value to the employer," says Whitmore. "Have all of your facts and figures in order. Come prepared with a list of your qualifications, accomplishments (personal and professional), how you saved your last company money or increased your company's bottom line, and why you are the one best suited for the job." 

 

... but only provide a couple reasons for your request.

"When preparing to make a first offer, people often overcorrect," writes Wharton professor Adam Grant. "They're so concerned about justifying their positions that they marshal as many reasons as possible."
Grant points to research that found skilled negotiators averaged fewer than two reasons per argument, compared with three reasons per argument from the non-experts.
He explains that more reasons can dilute an argument, especially if some are weaker than others. And presenting too many reasons can convey a lack of confidence, "making clear that we're uncertain of the legitimacy of our offer. An effective first offer is best supported by one or two compelling reasons," Grant says.

 

Be excited, but not desperate.

You should reiterate your excitement and stay positive, but don't be so excited that you seem desperate. You have no idea how many other candidates the hiring manager is interviewing so play it cool, says Martineau. 
"Desperate is problematic. Eager is not. I want people who are eager and excited," he says. "It's only aGOOD INVESTMENT on my end if it's a good investment on your end." 
However, Koller says that showing the employer that you're excited about working for the company does make them more inclined to give you want you want.

 

Make the first offer.

As conventional wisdom goes, you should wait for the other party to make the initial offer in order to get more information to act on. 
In reality, Grant says it's much better to make the first offer because you get to set the "anchor," the figure that affects the trajectory of the negotiation. As previously reported on Business Insider, people who make very high first offers end up with a much better result. 
The first offer pulls the other person in its direction, and it's difficult to adjust the other way. 

 

Emphasize what the company gains by hiring you.

Recent research suggests that, when negotiating, emphasizing what you're giving the other person as opposed to what they're losing makes the other person more likely to concede.
Make sure you highlight what skills and experience you're offering the company and your potential boss first, and use that to justify what you're asking for.

 

Give a salary range rather than a target.

Offering a pay range instead of an exact number opens up room for discussion and shows the employer that you're flexible. A range also "gives you a cushion," says Martineau, in case your asking salary is too high. 
"Most companies will meet you in your range, even if it's the bottom third of that range," he says. "Basically, if they want you, they don't want to send the wrong message by not meeting you in that range."
Presenting a range gives people information about what you're actually asking for, and it makes you seem polite and reasonable — which means you're less likely to get hit with a hard-line counteroffer.

 

Use odd, extremely precise numbers.

Using a weird, precise number makes sense during a negotiation. For example, instead of asking for $70,000, you're better off asking for $68,500. 
Malia Mason, lead researcher in a study published in The Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, tells Business Insider that using a precise number instead of rounded numbers will give you a solid anchor. It also gives off the appearance that you've done your research. Even when giving a range, you should use precise numbers. 

 

Pay attention to your body language.

"The way in which you carry yourself, even when seated at a desk, matters," Trump writes. She notes that most of our communication is nonverbal and that messages are often conveyed through our facial expressions, gestures, posture, and audible elements, like sighs.
Her suggestions: Don't fidget. Don't pick your nails or tap your foot. Don't sit on the edge of your seat because it could make you look overeager. Don't hunch over and drum your nails because it could communicate aggression or frustration. Don't cross your arms protectively because it could make you appear meek and intimidated.
"Regardless of how fast your heart may be beating, sit upright, make eye contact, and focus on breathing evenly," Trump writes.

 

Mirror the other person's behavior.

When people are getting along, they mimic one another — mirroring each other's accents, speech patterns, facial expressions, and body language.
A Stanford-Northwestern-INSEAD study found that people who were coached to mimic their negotiation partner's behavior not only negotiated a better deal, but expanded the pie for both people.
"Negotiators who mimicked the mannerisms of their opponents both secured better individual outcomes, and their dyads as a whole also performed better when mimicking occurred compared to when it did not," the authors wrote.

 

Listen more than you speak.

"When people are uncomfortable, and many people are when they have to negotiate, they start rambling as a way to fill the vacuum of silence," Trump writes.
"Some of the strongest negotiators I know just sit back and listen. The less they engage, the more likely the other person is to slip up and offer information they otherwise would have kept guarded," she says.

 

Always counteroffer, but don't do it more than once.

Once you receive their offer, you are expected to make a counteroffer. No employer wants a pushover. However, Koller says that you should not go back to the negotiation table more than once because then "it becomes annoying to the hiring manager."
"Once it gets really drawn out, it gets frustrating for both sides," and you don't want to start a new job off on the wrong foot, he says.

 

Consider your alternatives.

If the employer can't meet your requested salary, be prepared to negotiate for benefits, like additional vacation days or the ability to telecommute one day per week, Whitmore suggests. 
"Salary isn't everything, and I think you should be open minded," she says.
"If you don't get the amount you want, reply with, 'May I have a job performance review in six or nine months?' This will give you a window of time to prove yourself and then re-negotiate for a salary increase," Whitmore suggests. 

 

Practice patience.

Give yourself time to think about their offer, Whitmore says. "Try not to give a definite answer right away. Ask the employer, 'May I get back to you at the end of the week?'" Separation creates anticipation. This extra time will allow you to review your options with your family or other potential employers, she explains.

 

Keep a positive attitude.

"If you don't get the salary you think you deserve, don't share the news with everyone you know," says Whitmore. "News travels fast and your comments might come back to haunt you." And never bad-mouth an employer on social networks, she adds. 
"Don't take it personally. The timing may not be right or the economy may be partly to blame. Consider this: The hiring manager may even call you again in the future if a position in your price range opens up."

Source: http://www.businessinsider.com/tips-for-negotiating-the-salary-you-want-2016-2?utm_content=buffer9dfda&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer


Sunday, 17 July 2016

All progress takes place outside the comfort zone.

If you want to become a top skier it is stupid to stay on the beginners' slopes. There you will not progress, you will remain mediocre. If you want to become a top skier, you have to move on the most difficult and demanding slopes. And of course they will fill you with tons of discomfort. But this is a part of the growth process. If you do not feel uncomfortable, then you do not grow. On the most difficult tracks you learn the most.

This also applies in the business world. Resistance to change, absorbing and giving up to fear, staying in your comfort zone…this will only lead to a failure in your career.


Friday, 15 July 2016

Who you will become in 5 years is based on...?

How successful you will be in life will not be determined by how hard you will work, but how well you'll be thinking. Therefore read books and hang out with people which are better than you.

Why is this important? When you play (eg. Tennis) with someone better than yourself, also your game in that match improves. And reading books creates a very similar phenomenon. When you expose your mind in front of the greatest people in the history of mankind, your game improves, your thinking deepens and you lift yourself to a whole new level of wisdom. Reading books allows you to connect at any time with the most creative, intelligent and inspiring people in the world.


Thursday, 14 July 2016

13 bad habits you should break in 2016 to be more productive

Being more productive is about working smarter, not harder, and making the most of each day. While this is no easy feat, getting more done in less time is a much more attainable goal if you're not sabotaging yourself with bad habits.
Following are 13 things you should stop doing right now to become more productive.

1. Impulsive web browsing
Since most of us have access to the internet at work, it's easy to get sidetracked looking up the answer to a random question that just popped into your head.
That's why Quora user Suresh Rathinam recommends writing down these thoughts or questions on a notepad. This way, you can look up the information you want later, when you're not trying to get work done.



2. Multitasking

While many people believe they're great at doing two things at once, scientific research has found that just 2% of the population is capable of effectively multitasking.
For the rest of us, multitasking is a bad habit that decreases our attention spans and makes us less productive in the long run.

3. Checking email throughout the day

Constant internet access can also lead people to check email throughout the day. Sadly, each time you do this, you lose up to 25 minutes of work time. What's more, the constant checking of email makes you dumber.
Instead, strategy consultant Ron Friedman suggests quitting Outlook, closing email tabs, and turning off your phone for 30-minute chunks of deep-diving work.

4. Moral licensing

Whether it's a new diet, workout routine, or work schedule, one of the most difficult things about forming a new habit is the urge to cheat as a reward for sticking to a routine for a while.
This idea that we "deserve" to splurge on fancy meal after being thrifty for a week is called "moral licensing," and it undermines a lot of people's plans for self-improvement.
Instead, try making your goal part of your identity, such that you think of yourself as the kind of person who saves money or works out regularly, rather than as someone who is working against their own will to do something new.

5. Putting off your most important work until later in the day

People often start off their day by completing easy tasks to get themselves rolling and leave their more difficult work for later. This is a bad idea, and one that frequently leads to the important work not getting done at all.
As researchers have found, people have a limited amount of willpower that decreases throughout the day. That being the case, it's best to get your hardest, most important tasks done at the beginning of the day.

6. Taking too many meetings

Nothing disrupts the flow of productivity like an unnecessary meeting. And with tools like email, instant messenger, and video chat at your fingertips, it's best to use meetings for introductions and serious discussions that should only be held in person.
BlueGrace Logistics founder Bobby Harris recommends that people don't accept a meetingunless the person who requested it has put forth a clear agenda and stated exactly how much time they will need. And even then, Harris recommends giving the person half of the time they initially requested.


7. Sitting all day

Nilofer Merchant, a business consultant and the author of "The New How: Creating Business Solutions Through Collaborative Strategy Paperback," shares with TED audiences how she's helped several major companies develop successful new ideas: walking meetings.
She recommends forgoing coffee or fluorescent-lighted conference-room meetings in favor of walking and talking 20 to 30 miles a week.
"You'll be surprised at how fresh air drives fresh thinking, and in the way that you do, you'll bring into your life an entirely new set of ideas," she says.

8. Hitting the snooze button

It might feel like pressing the snooze button in the morning gives you a little bit of extra rest to start your day, but the truth is that it does more harm than good.
That's because when you first wake up, your endocrine system begins to release alertness hormones to get you ready for the day. By going back to sleep, you're slowing down this process. Plus, nine minutes doesn't give your body time to get the restorative, deep sleep it needs.
This isn't to say you should cut back on sleep. As Arianna Huffington discusses in her TED talk, a good night's sleep has the power to increase productivity, happiness, smarter decision-making, and unlock bigger ideas. The trick for getting enough sleep is planning ahead and powering down at a reasonable time.

9. Failing to prioritize

Some people think having lots of goals is the best way to ensure success — if one idea fails, at least there are plenty more in reserve to turn to. Unfortunately, this sort of wavering can be extremely unproductive.
Warren Buffett has the perfect antidote. Seeing that his personal pilot was not accomplishing his life goals, Buffett asked him to make a list of 25 things he wanted to get done before he died. But rather than taking little steps toward completing every one of them, Buffett advised the pilot to pick five things he thought were most important and ignore the rest.

10. Over-planning

Many ambitious and organized people try to maximize their productivity by meticulously planning out every hour of their day. Unfortunately, things don't always go as planned, and a sick child or unexpected assignment can throw a wrench into their entire day.
Instead, you might want to try planning just four or five hours of real work each day, that way you're able to be flexible later on.

11. Under-planning

With that being said, you should take time to strategize before attempting to achieve any long-term goals. Trying to come up with the endgame of a project you're doing midway through the process can be extremely frustrating and waste a huge amount of time.
Harvard lecturer Robert Pozen recommends that you first determine what you want your final outcome to be, then lay out a series of steps for yourself. Once you're halfway through, you can review your work to make sure you're on track and adjust accordingly.

12. Keeping your phone next to your bed

The LED screens of our smartphones, tablets, and laptops give off what is called blue light, which studies have shown can damage vision and suppress production of melatonin, a hormone that helps regulate the sleep cycle.
Research also suggests that people with lower melatonin levels are more prone to depression.

13. Perfectionism

More often than laziness the root of procrastination is the fear of not doing a good job, says British philosopher and author Alain de Botton on his website, The Book of Life.
"We begin to work only when the fear of doing nothing at all exceeds the fear of not doing it very well … And that can take time," he writes.
The only way to overcome procrastination is to abandon perfectionism and not fuss over details as you move forward. Pretending the task doesn't matter and that it's OK to mess up could help you get started faster.


Source: http://www.businessinsider.com/bad-habits-that-are-killing-your-productivity-2015-12

Wednesday, 13 July 2016

Your struggles always lead to strength.

Do not give up. Keep walking towards discomfort and accept as many calculated risk as you can. Each of your fears will begin to disappear gradually. Do every day the things that scares you, and you will every day elegantly transform your fear into power. Thus you will build confidence and become invincible. Take a chance. Throw yourself into change. Grab your greatest opportunities. Every time you do this, you give your inner leader more fuel. Soon you will come to a point where anything will be possible.


Tuesday, 12 July 2016

Sunday, 10 July 2016

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

Successful people intuitively know that hardship disclose the person. It is clear to them that difficult situations are scary, but at the same time invigorating. In addition, they deeply understand that in the difficult times there are the best opportunities for success. The more extreme the conditions are, the more excites them not only the opportunity to see, what are they made of, but also that they will evolve into their best. So rather to resist discomfort, they step in front of it. Since they work and live this way, the things that were once also filled with an unpleasant feeling, after all feel comfortable to them.

Therefore remember: the longer you spend outside your comfort zone, the more it expands. This means that the more you go to the limit, the more things that once scared you start to seem normal.