Give what you want to receive the most. This is one of the most
valuable lessons that I can give you. If you want more support, show more
support to others. If you want more respect, show more respect to others. If
you want more love, just show more love. Then everything will come back to you
like a river. THE PROCESS OF GIVING TRIGGERS THE PROCESS OF RECEIVING!
Showing posts with label personal development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal development. Show all posts
Sunday, 31 July 2016
Saturday, 30 July 2016
How To Become A Better Morning Person
Who does not know the river: "He stood up with his left foot."? The way you wake up / but will be largely marked the course of the entire day. And therefore, that every day will be the most successful, it is crucial to learn how to stand up "to the right leg" :)
Wednesday, 27 July 2016
WE DON'T SEE THE WORLD AS IT IS, BUT JUST THE WAY WE ARE.
If you are full of fear and doubts you are projecting your internal
state to the external circumstances.
To really understand what I'm talking about, try to imagine glasses
with colorful glass. Everyone of us has such colored glasses and through these
glasses we perceive everything. This is nothing other than a filter through
which we strain all our knowledge and experiences. These glasses are made of
all beliefs, rules and ways of being and living, which was thought to us by our
parents, teachers, friends, and from all other influences, which formed us from
birth onwards. They sre fused from all the conversations you've ever had with
all the people you've ever met and from all previous experiences. Out of all
this came a story (which we sold to ourselves) about how the world works.
Remember that we don't see the world as it is, but just the way we
are. So, if your glasses with colorful glass are a mess, will also your life be
a mess. If in your glasses there's a belief that says: "You can not become
rich in a fair way", then your actions will naturally coincide with that
belief and you'll never be rich through honest work.
Remember that YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY.
Tuesday, 26 July 2016
Difficult times give you the chance to grow.
The highest
mountains form the best climbers. And troubled times create the best leaders.
The most
uncomfortable situations are those tests, where the best businessmen come out.
Keep in mind that heavy tests never last long, but strong people always do. Difficult
conditions are nothing more than a chance to become a hero. Times of trials,
both in business and in life are excellent opportunities to transform disaster
into success.
Monday, 25 July 2016
3 ways to be happier right now
One of the
ways that will help you achieve success in life is your attitude. Be a happy, positive and
smiling person. Give people arround you a smile, a positive word or show them
that you care for them. Love yourself and all other people. Be extremely
compassionate. Become outstanding-friendly. Make any person who crosses your
path better, happier and more committed than it was before. Then just watch
what others will do for your career.
Sunday, 24 July 2016
How To Overcome Laziness In 4 Steps
In life you can get only as much as you are on the other side ready to give!
Zero work means zero results. Zero time invested means zero results.
Zero risk invested means zero results. Zero faith, confidence, perseverance and
patience means zero results.
View a short video that will show you how you can start the day with
small steps to overcome laziness and will thus transform you into a highly
productive person.
Friday, 22 July 2016
Think and Grow Rich
Think and Grow Rich is the "bible" of personal development.
This masterpiece has become one of the biggest bestseller ever since it has
been sold in more than 70 million copies worldwide! In this book you will find
doctrines, principles and wisdom, which will show you, that your MIND and WAY
OF THINKING are the most important factors of your (un)SUCCESS.
This is »A MUST READ« if you want success and financial freedom in
your life!
Thursday, 21 July 2016
One of the life rules...
You are
the avarage of 5 persons you hung out with the most. So choose carefully your
friends. If you would like to be financially successful the recipe is very
simple – find 5 persons who are already financially successful and spend as
much time as possible with them.
Wednesday, 20 July 2016
How to change your results?
Your words affect
your own mood. Undoubtedly! Words, which are uttered, create your state. If you
call a situation "a CATASTROPHY" this triggers a specific emotional
response in you, which is quite different than if you would describe the
situation as "INTERESTING" or as "a BASE FOR IMPROVEMENT."
The language you use, has an impact on how you will react to a failure -
whether it is in an optimistic or in an indifferently way.
You should know, that
your words are nothing else than your thoughts, which you've expressed. With
words you proclaim your beliefs. Your beliefs direct your behavior, your
behavior creates all your results! So change your thoughts and your results
will change!
Monday, 18 July 2016
20 negotiation tips for getting the salary you want
Negotiating your salary can be awkward and challenging
— and actually getting the pay you want often seems impossible. But it isn't.
"A job interview can be stressful, especially
when it comes time to talk about money," says etiquette expert and "Poised
for Success" author Jacqueline Whitmore. "However,
you can get what you
want and deserve — most job seekers just aren't sure when and how to
ask for it."
To master the delicate dance that is a salary
negotiation, you need to be able to push without offending the hiring manager
or undercutting yourself.
Here's how the pros do it:
Research the market.
To successfully negotiate your salary, negotiation
expert Kim Keating writes in "Lean In For Graduates," you'll
need to gather information to figure out what you're really worth.
"The time you invest can pay off in a big way. And I mean that
literally," she writes.
To protect yourself against accepting too little or
asking for far too much, you can turn to sites like Glassdoor and Salary.com to determine
the average compensation range for someone with your level of experience and
skills and in your industry or company (or a comparable one, in terms of number
of employees, revenue size, and location).
"At the end of the day, a candidate has a number
in mind as to what they think they're worth," says Eddie R.
Koller III, managing director and partner at Howard-Sloan-Koller Group, a
technology and media recruiting firm. "But a company has limits to
what they can spend."
Set
your goals in advance.
Once you know what you're worth, decide how
much you would like to make and what's the lowest offer you'd be willing to
accept.
Ivanka Trump, CEO of Ivanka Trump
Collection, says knowing what you want to achieve before heading
into a negotiation is "the golden rule" for negotiating — but
most people ignore it.
"Without a plan, you allow the opposing party to
define your goals instead of the other way around," she writes on
Motto.
Don't
talk money until the interview process is over.
If you can delay discussing pay until there's an offer
on the table, you should.
"Once they've decided that they have to have you,
only then are you in the position to negotiate," says Dan Martineau,
president of Martineau Recruiting Technology, a firm specializing in IT
executive positions.
If your interviewer tries to talk about salary early
on, Martineau tells Business Insider that the best thing to do is to
tell the interviewer you would like to defer a conversation about compensation
until after the company has had a chance to evaluate whether you're the right
fit for them.
Open
with something personal.
As previously reported on Business Insider, in an
experiment where Kellogg and Stanford students negotiated by email, those
who shared unrelated personal details over the course of the negotiation —
hobbies, hometowns, etc. — ended up getting significantly better results than
those who kept things to name, email, and the dry monetary details.
Opening up a bit sends a signal that you're
trustworthy, according to Grant, and it makes it more likely that
they'll reciprocate.
Don't
ever disclose your current salary.
Revealing your salary history has the potential
to negatively affect your income for your entire career.
"I would never, ever disclose my current salary
or salary history to a prospective employer, even if it means ending the
interview process," writes recruiter and "Ask the
Headhunter" author, Nick Corcodilos. "That is my advice to
job hunters."
If an interviewer asks what your current salary is,
Corcodilos suggests politely but firmly declining to disclose your
salary history by saying something along the lines of, "I'd be glad
to help you assess what I'd be worth to your business by showing you what I can
do for you, but my salary is personal and confidential, just as the salaries of
your own employees are."
Liz Ryan, founder and CEO of consulting firm The Human
Workplace, recommends in a post on LinkedIn answering the
question indirectly by giving your target salary range instead.
"How are you ever going to increase your earnings
if every time you change jobs, you get a tiny raise over what they paid you at
the last place?" she asks.
Be
prepared to prove your value ...
Don't be afraid to toot your own horn a little.
"Be prepared to prove your value to the
employer," says Whitmore. "Have all of your facts and
figures in order. Come prepared with a list of your qualifications,
accomplishments (personal and professional), how you saved your last company
money or increased your company's bottom line, and why you are the one best
suited for the job."
...
but only provide a couple reasons for your request.
"When preparing to make a first offer, people
often overcorrect," writes Wharton professor Adam Grant.
"They're so concerned about justifying their positions that they marshal
as many reasons as possible."
Grant points to research that found skilled
negotiators averaged fewer than two reasons per argument, compared with three
reasons per argument from the non-experts.
He explains that more reasons can dilute an argument,
especially if some are weaker than others. And presenting too many reasons can
convey a lack of confidence, "making clear that we're uncertain of the
legitimacy of our offer. An effective first offer is best supported by one or
two compelling reasons," Grant says.
Be
excited, but not desperate.
You should reiterate your excitement and stay
positive, but don't be so excited that you seem desperate. You have no
idea how many other candidates the hiring manager is interviewing so play it
cool, says Martineau.
"Desperate is problematic. Eager is not. I want
people who are eager and excited," he says. "It's only aGOOD
INVESTMENT on
my end if it's a good investment on your end."
However, Koller says that showing the employer that
you're excited about working for the company does make them more inclined to
give you want you want.
Make
the first offer.
As conventional wisdom goes, you should wait for the
other party to make the initial offer in order to get more information to act
on.
In reality, Grant says it's much better to
make the first offer because you get to set the "anchor," the
figure that affects the trajectory of the negotiation. As previously
reported on Business Insider, people who make very high first offers end up
with a much better result.
The first offer pulls the other person in its
direction, and it's difficult to adjust the other way.
Emphasize
what the company gains by hiring you.
Recent research suggests that, when negotiating,
emphasizing what you're giving the other person as opposed to what they're
losing makes the other person more likely to concede.
Make sure you highlight what skills and experience
you're offering the company and your potential boss first, and use that to
justify what you're asking for.
Give
a salary range rather than a target.
Offering a pay range instead of an exact number
opens up room for discussion and shows the employer that you're flexible. A
range also "gives you a cushion," says Martineau, in
case your asking salary is too high.
"Most companies will meet you in your range, even
if it's the bottom third of that range," he says. "Basically,
if they want you, they don't want to send the wrong message by not meeting you
in that range."
Presenting a range gives people information about
what you're actually asking for, and it makes you seem polite and reasonable —
which means you're less likely to get hit with a hard-line counteroffer.
Use
odd, extremely precise numbers.
Using a weird, precise number makes sense during
a negotiation. For example, instead of asking for $70,000, you're better off
asking for $68,500.
Malia Mason, lead researcher in a study published
in The Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, tells Business Insider
that using a precise number instead of rounded numbers will give you a
solid anchor. It also gives off the appearance that you've done your research.
Even when giving a range, you should use precise numbers.
Pay
attention to your body language.
"The way in which you carry yourself, even when
seated at a desk, matters," Trump writes. She notes that most of our
communication is nonverbal and that messages are often conveyed through
our facial expressions, gestures, posture, and audible elements, like
sighs.
Her suggestions: Don't fidget. Don't pick your
nails or tap your foot. Don't sit on the edge of your seat because it could
make you look overeager. Don't hunch over and drum your nails because
it could communicate aggression or frustration. Don't cross your arms
protectively because it could make you appear meek and intimidated.
"Regardless of how fast your heart may be
beating, sit upright, make eye contact, and focus on breathing evenly," Trump
writes.
Mirror
the other person's behavior.
When people are getting along, they mimic one
another — mirroring each other's accents, speech patterns, facial
expressions, and body language.
A Stanford-Northwestern-INSEAD study found that
people who were coached to mimic their negotiation partner's behavior not only
negotiated a better deal, but expanded the pie for both people.
"Negotiators who mimicked the mannerisms of their
opponents both secured better individual outcomes, and their dyads as a whole
also performed better when mimicking occurred compared to when it did
not," the authors wrote.
Listen
more than you speak.
"When people are uncomfortable, and many people
are when they have to negotiate, they start rambling as a way to fill the
vacuum of silence," Trump writes.
"Some of the strongest negotiators I know just
sit back and listen. The less they engage, the more likely the other person is
to slip up and offer information they otherwise would have kept guarded,"
she says.
Always
counteroffer, but don't do it more than once.
Once you receive their offer, you are expected to make
a counteroffer. No employer wants a pushover. However, Koller says that you
should not go back to the negotiation table more than once because
then "it becomes annoying to the hiring manager."
"Once it gets really drawn out, it gets
frustrating for both sides," and you don't want to start a new job
off on the wrong foot, he says.
Consider
your alternatives.
If the employer can't meet your requested salary, be
prepared to negotiate for benefits, like additional vacation days or the
ability to telecommute one day per week, Whitmore suggests.
"Salary isn't everything, and I think you
should be open minded," she says.
"If you don't get the amount you want, reply
with, 'May I have a job performance review in six or nine
months?' This will give you a window of time to prove yourself and then
re-negotiate for a salary increase," Whitmore suggests.
Practice
patience.
Give yourself time to think about their offer,
Whitmore says. "Try not to give a definite answer right away. Ask the
employer, 'May I get back to you at the end of the
week?'" Separation creates anticipation. This extra time will allow
you to review your options with your family or other potential employers, she
explains.
Keep
a positive attitude.
"If you don't get the salary you think you
deserve, don't share the news with everyone you know," says
Whitmore. "News travels fast and your comments might come back to
haunt you." And never bad-mouth an employer on social networks, she
adds.
"Don't take it personally. The timing may not be
right or the economy may be partly to blame. Consider this: The hiring manager
may even call you again in the future if a position in your price range opens
up."
Source:
http://www.businessinsider.com/tips-for-negotiating-the-salary-you-want-2016-2?utm_content=buffer9dfda&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer
Sunday, 17 July 2016
All progress takes place outside the comfort zone.
If you want
to become a top skier it is stupid to stay on the beginners' slopes. There you will
not progress, you will remain mediocre. If you want to become a top skier, you
have to move on the most difficult and demanding slopes. And of course they
will fill you with tons of discomfort. But this is a part of the growth
process. If you do not feel uncomfortable, then you do not grow. On the most
difficult tracks you learn the most.
This also
applies in the business world. Resistance to change, absorbing and giving up to
fear, staying in your comfort zone…this will only lead to a failure in your
career.
Friday, 15 July 2016
Who you will become in 5 years is based on...?
How successful you will be in life will not be determined by how hard
you will work, but how well you'll be thinking. Therefore read books and hang out
with people which are better than you.
Why is this important? When you play (eg. Tennis) with someone better
than yourself, also your game in that match improves. And reading books creates
a very similar phenomenon. When you expose your mind in front of the greatest
people in the history of mankind, your game improves, your thinking deepens and
you lift yourself to a whole new level of wisdom. Reading books allows you to
connect at any time with the most creative, intelligent and inspiring people in
the world.
Thursday, 14 July 2016
13 bad habits you should break in 2016 to be more productive
Being more
productive is about working smarter, not harder, and making the most of each
day. While this is no easy feat, getting more done in less time is a much more
attainable goal if you're not sabotaging yourself with bad habits.
Following
are 13 things you should stop doing right now to become more productive.
1. Impulsive web
browsing
Since most
of us have access to the internet at work, it's easy to get sidetracked looking
up the answer to a random question that just popped into your head.
That's why
Quora user Suresh Rathinam recommends writing down these thoughts or questions on a notepad. This way, you can look
up the information you want later, when you're not trying to get work done.
2. Multitasking
While many
people believe they're great at doing two things at once, scientific research
has found that just 2% of the population is capable of effectively
multitasking.
For the rest
of us, multitasking is a bad habit that decreases our attention spans and makes us less productive in the long run.
3. Checking email throughout the day
Constant
internet access can also lead people to check email throughout the day. Sadly,
each time you do this, you lose up to 25 minutes of work time. What's more, the
constant checking of email makes you dumber.
Instead,
strategy consultant Ron Friedman suggests quitting Outlook, closing email tabs,
and turning off your phone for 30-minute chunks of deep-diving work.
4. Moral licensing
Whether it's
a new diet, workout routine, or work schedule, one of the most difficult things
about forming a new habit is the urge to cheat as a reward for sticking to a routine for a while.
This idea
that we "deserve" to splurge on fancy meal after being thrifty for a
week is called "moral licensing," and it undermines a lot of people's
plans for self-improvement.
Instead, try
making your goal part of your identity, such that you think of yourself as the
kind of person who saves money or works out regularly, rather than as someone
who is working against their own will to do something new.
5. Putting off your most important work
until later in the day
People often
start off their day by completing easy tasks to get themselves rolling and
leave their more difficult work for later. This is a bad idea, and one that
frequently leads to the important work not getting done at all.
As
researchers have found, people have a limited amount of willpower that decreases throughout the day.
That being the case, it's best to get your hardest, most important tasks done
at the beginning of the day.
6. Taking too many meetings
Nothing
disrupts the flow of productivity like an unnecessary meeting. And with tools
like email, instant messenger, and video chat at your fingertips, it's best to
use meetings for introductions and serious discussions that should only be
held in person.
BlueGrace
Logistics founder Bobby Harris recommends that people don't accept a meetingunless
the person who requested it has put forth a clear agenda and stated exactly how
much time they will need. And even then, Harris recommends giving the person
half of the time they initially requested.
7. Sitting all day
Nilofer
Merchant, a business consultant and the author of "The New How: Creating Business Solutions Through
Collaborative Strategy Paperback," shares with TED audiences how she's helped several major
companies develop successful new ideas: walking meetings.
She
recommends forgoing coffee or fluorescent-lighted conference-room meetings in
favor of walking and talking 20 to 30 miles a week.
"You'll
be surprised at how fresh air drives fresh thinking, and in the way that you
do, you'll bring into your life an entirely new set of ideas," she says.
8. Hitting the snooze button
It might
feel like pressing the snooze button in the morning gives you a little bit of
extra rest to start your day, but the truth is that it does more harm than good.
That's
because when you first wake up, your endocrine system begins to release
alertness hormones to get you ready for the day. By going back to sleep, you're
slowing down this process. Plus, nine minutes doesn't give your body time to
get the restorative, deep sleep it needs.
This isn't
to say you should cut back on sleep. As Arianna Huffington discusses in her TED talk, a good night's sleep has
the power to increase productivity, happiness, smarter decision-making, and
unlock bigger ideas. The trick for getting enough sleep is planning ahead and
powering down at a reasonable time.
9. Failing to prioritize
Some people think
having lots of goals is the best way to ensure success — if one idea fails, at
least there are plenty more in reserve to turn to. Unfortunately, this
sort of wavering can be extremely unproductive.
Warren
Buffett has the perfect antidote. Seeing that his
personal pilot was not accomplishing his life goals, Buffett asked him to make
a list of 25 things he wanted to get done before he died. But rather than
taking little steps toward completing every one of them, Buffett advised the
pilot to pick five things he thought were most important and ignore the rest.
10. Over-planning
Many
ambitious and organized people try to maximize their productivity by
meticulously planning out every hour of their day. Unfortunately, things don't
always go as planned, and a sick child or unexpected assignment can throw a
wrench into their entire day.
Instead, you
might want to try planning just four or five hours of real work each day,
that way you're able to be flexible later on.
11. Under-planning
With that
being said, you should take time to strategize before attempting to achieve any
long-term goals. Trying to come up with the endgame of a project you're doing
midway through the process can be extremely frustrating and waste a huge amount
of time.
Harvard
lecturer Robert Pozen recommends that you first determine what you want your
final outcome to be, then lay out a series of steps for yourself.
Once you're halfway through, you can review your work to make sure you're on
track and adjust accordingly.
12. Keeping your phone next to your bed
The LED
screens of our smartphones, tablets, and laptops give off what is called blue
light, which studies have shown can damage vision and suppress production of melatonin,
a hormone that helps regulate the sleep cycle.
Research
also suggests that people with lower melatonin levels are more prone to depression.
13. Perfectionism
More often
than laziness the root of procrastination is the fear of not doing a good job,
says British philosopher and author Alain de Botton on his website, The Book of Life.
"We
begin to work only when the fear of doing nothing at all exceeds the fear of
not doing it very well … And that can take time," he writes.
The only way
to overcome procrastination is to abandon perfectionism and not fuss over
details as you move forward. Pretending the task doesn't matter and that it's
OK to mess up could help you get started faster.
Wednesday, 13 July 2016
Your struggles always lead to strength.
Do not give
up. Keep walking towards discomfort and accept as many calculated risk as you
can. Each of your fears will begin to disappear gradually. Do every day the
things that scares you, and you will every day elegantly transform your fear
into power. Thus you will build confidence and become invincible. Take a
chance. Throw yourself into change. Grab your greatest opportunities. Every
time you do this, you give your inner leader more fuel. Soon you will come to a
point where anything will be possible.
Tuesday, 12 July 2016
Wise Words From Jack Ma
In just 1 minute Jack Ma explains perfectly what kind of people you have to avoide in business. Wise words indeed.
Sunday, 10 July 2016
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone
Successful people intuitively know that hardship disclose the person.
It is clear to them that difficult situations are scary, but at the same time
invigorating. In addition, they deeply understand that in the difficult times
there are the best opportunities for success. The more extreme the conditions
are, the more excites them not only the opportunity to see, what are they made
of, but also that they will evolve into their best. So rather to resist
discomfort, they step in front of it. Since they work and live this way, the
things that were once also filled with an unpleasant feeling, after all feel
comfortable to them.
Therefore remember: the longer you spend outside your comfort zone, the
more it expands. This means that the more you go to the limit, the more things
that once scared you start to seem normal.
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